What Miranda Kerr taught me about Self Love?

 

The first 5 years operating my PR consultancy was wonderful and filled with so many memorable experiences. Some of the most unforgettable include being involved in the worldwide launch of ‘The Secret’, living in Asia working with a leading Spa & Wellness Magazine and conducting an exclusive book launch on ‘The World’.

At the time my younger brother was traveling the world modelling and falling in love with a fellow model I only knew as Miranda.

Miranda who was relatively unknown at the time had just commenced doing some work for lingerie mammoth Victoria’s Secret. This was extremely exciting news so I volunteered to help with her personal PR. Little did I know she was on the precipice of international fame.

Bare with me this is not intended to be a big name dropping exercise, I am getting somewhere with this.

I was lucky enough to work with Miranda Kerr for 7 years as she rose to fame and it was a fascinating journey indeed. Everything she touched turned to gold and I had a glimpse of the ‘yes’ world celebrities live in.

It was absolutely intoxicating and I cannot deny I did enjoy the benefits. I was on the invite list to all the best parties and I could call any editor and get through the proverbial gatekeeper without so much as saying ‘Hi it is Carlii Lyon, Miranda Kerr’s publicist’. It was a PR fantasy come true.

Here now I come to the point of the blog. After I gave birth to my second child I decided my time had come to stop working and focus on my children. I wanted to be present in their formative years and I knew intuitively it was the right thing to do. With a client as international as Miranda there is absolutely no such thing as normal working hours. I passed the reins onto my sometimes friend, sometimes rival Annie Kelly (I say that with love) and closed the Miranda chapter of my life.

Suddenly I was jolted out of the yes world and into the isolation of being at home with two children. As I made my crash landing into a new reality I was also confronted with the sudden disappearance of many friends and colleagues. I slowly came to terms with the fact they had been in my life for what I did rather than who I was.

This was a life-changing gift in disguise as it made me look long and hard at myself. I have always believed to know a person you only have to look at the people they surround themselves with. I had to admit to myself that I had also become a person who collected friends and colleagues based upon what they did and how they could serve me.

The whole process was liberating. Add to that I married a man who had himself enjoyed international success but still maintained the ability to enjoy the company of a garbage man the same as he would the CEO of a large company. He saw the person for who they were rather than what they did.

The lesson I learnt is as follows- In this lifetime you may play a multitude of roles however there is an aspect of yourself that will remain the same. It is that timeless essence that we must all pay attention to. When you love yourself for who you are, you will naturally attract people into your life that love you for you. They are the ones who will be there to enjoy the whole journey, not just the highs. When you find those special individuals love them for who they are and invest the time and effort into their life. You not only get what you give; the process of giving brings incredible joy.

Love and magic

Carlii xxx

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The Unconditional Friendship

They say friends come and go but true friends last forever. What does it take to be a true friend?

 

With all the chaos that is unfolding around the world, the one thing that has been thrown into the spotlight is the importance of our loved ones. We have been called to evaluate what is important in life and in some ways that is the great blessing at the heart of all the suffering.

 

The idea of ‘Unconditional Friendship’ has weighed on my mind recently. There is one particular friendship I have, that has become somewhat confusing. I have known this woman for over a decade and in that time we have witnessed much change in each other’s lives.

 

She is a few years older than me and I have to admit when I first met her I looked to her as a mentor. She had achieved (in fabulous fashion) precisely what I was striving for at that time of my life- career success and financial independence.

 

If you would of asked me how to describe her when we first met, and for quite a few years after; it would be conservative, elegant, powerful, well put together and completely in control of herself and everything around her.

 

Recently we have both experienced big changes in our personal universe. I feel as though today she can be best described as a born again teenager, pushing all boundaries and rebelling against convention. My world today revolves around my family, my yoga practice and my spiritual journey. In essence we are both exploring different aspects of ourselves.

 

Not only are we living in completely different worlds, we speak a different language and I am not sure we really understand one another anymore. In my twenties, I would have come to the conclusion that it was time to walk away and let go of what once was. The thing is I still love her and at her core, her spirit has remained unchanged.

 

Through the journey of our lives, we might choose to try on different roles, change certain aspects of ourselves and explore new ways of being in the world. One would hope, as long as we are not hurting our self or others, that our true friends would support us along the way.

 

I am choosing to stand by my friend, I am choosing to embrace her changes and I am choosing to offer my unconditional friendship. I might not always agree with her decisions but let’s be honest, will there ever be a person we will always agree with?

 

If we were to live by the rule ‘you get what you give’, we would treat our friends as we want to be treated. 

 

I could think of nothing worse than remaining exactly the same for my entire life. We are here to learn, grow, evolve and along the way we may not always appear to be the same person. Whatever path we choose, we will all end up on the doorstep to the next world. How beautiful would it be to know the people around you at that point have stood by you and shared it all. The ups, the downs and all the crazy roundabouts in between.

 

Love and magic

Carlii xxx