The Unconditional Friendship

They say friends come and go but true friends last forever. What does it take to be a true friend?


With all the chaos that is unfolding around the world, the one thing that has been thrown into the spotlight is the importance of our loved ones. We have been called to evaluate what is important in life and in some ways that is the great blessing at the heart of all the suffering.


The idea of ‘Unconditional Friendship’ has weighed on my mind recently. There is one particular friendship I have, that has become somewhat confusing. I have known this woman for over a decade and in that time we have witnessed much change in each other’s lives.


She is a few years older than me and I have to admit when I first met her I looked to her as a mentor. She had achieved (in fabulous fashion) precisely what I was striving for at that time of my life- career success and financial independence.


If you would of asked me how to describe her when we first met, and for quite a few years after; it would be conservative, elegant, powerful, well put together and completely in control of herself and everything around her.


Recently we have both experienced big changes in our personal universe. I feel as though today she can be best described as a born again teenager, pushing all boundaries and rebelling against convention. My world today revolves around my family, my yoga practice and my spiritual journey. In essence we are both exploring different aspects of ourselves.


Not only are we living in completely different worlds, we speak a different language and I am not sure we really understand one another anymore. In my twenties, I would have come to the conclusion that it was time to walk away and let go of what once was. The thing is I still love her and at her core, her spirit has remained unchanged.


Through the journey of our lives, we might choose to try on different roles, change certain aspects of ourselves and explore new ways of being in the world. One would hope, as long as we are not hurting our self or others, that our true friends would support us along the way.


I am choosing to stand by my friend, I am choosing to embrace her changes and I am choosing to offer my unconditional friendship. I might not always agree with her decisions but let’s be honest, will there ever be a person we will always agree with?


If we were to live by the rule ‘you get what you give’, we would treat our friends as we want to be treated. 


I could think of nothing worse than remaining exactly the same for my entire life. We are here to learn, grow, evolve and along the way we may not always appear to be the same person. Whatever path we choose, we will all end up on the doorstep to the next world. How beautiful would it be to know the people around you at that point have stood by you and shared it all. The ups, the downs and all the crazy roundabouts in between.


Love and magic

Carlii xxx


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